10 Ways Bipolar Disorder Makes You A Better Person

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Brothers and sisters of the bipolar curse, stalkers curious about it and those who have a doubt they may be lucky enough to be bipolar, welcome to another bipolar list. I have a feeling you are going to enjoy this one. I will not try to make it cheesy like that other so called motivational speaker guy who wrote a joke called bipolar in order (that’s more like bipolar out of order). I will be realistic, practical and no where near screaming words like SUCCESS! CONFIDENCE!! and CAREEEEER!! That is simply because we are a lot smarter than that. So here we start with number 10.

10. You are smart

Don’t get me wrong, you are not smarter as a result of bipolar disorder. It is simply that bipolar disorder is a disease that shows a strong correlation with higher IQ’s. Rarely will you see someone suffering from this disease who isn’t a bright cookie. Perhaps this is the exact same reason people often link madness with genius. No you’re not a genius, don’t get cocky, but if there were ever a fine line between being smart and being a little crazy, it was because of the usual association with mental disorders when it comes to extremely smart people, and bipolar disorder is on the top of them.

9. You are creative

Science has also shown a strong relationship between bipolar disorder and heightened creativity. That is creating pieces of art; music, paintings, fashion designing. It doesn’t stop there, you may also be great at creating ideas, coming up with great solutions to everyday problems or even plots for novels worth reading. Whatever you are creative at, you will usually find you have a little bit more than is expected of others.

 

8. You are sensitive

This is one of the traits that on mentioning, it may be safe to say that our perks are sometimes the same as our downfalls. You have an incredible ability for empathy, tolerance, acceptance. You care about others. You simply want to help. Of course this incredible sensitivity towards others may leave you wide open for criticism. You may have already decided to develop an indifferent attitude because you realized that no one can survive giving a damn this much, which is true by the way. We all need to realize that there is no way we can fix the world all by ourselves.

 

7. You are idealistic

This infinite care you demonstrate towards others, along with your imagination, leads you to think of what if’s could if’s and all sorts of made up scenarios in which life is good and fair to all. You want justice, you want responsibility, and you want the right thing to do. You spend so many hours thinking why oh why isn’t every person a good person and why there is evil in the world. But it may be these thoughts and the hopelessness, the realization that such a world will never exist may be one of the serious triggers of your condition.

 

6. You are religious

Before you ask “what if I don’t believe in God?” I will tell you right away that by religious, I mean having even asked yourself the really big questions of life, faith and spirituality at all. Most people simply follow the religions of their fathers by inheritance and never question those beliefs. You will always be one who wonders and wants more answers. Whatever the conclusions you drew were, asking these questions by themselves is something that is not as common as you think. Whether you are atheist, buddhist, christian or other, you gave and still give the whole topic some very serious thoughts.

 

5. You are passionate

Whether towards loved ones or side projects, you show true passion. As gifted as you are, when you set your mind to something, nothing can stop you. The only problem is that it is hard to set your mind on much, with depression kicking in from time to time, and the delusions of the highs reminding you that you were dreaming (when you get back to normal). But when you do decide, it’s only a matter of time till you see outstanding results found only by showing this exceptional passion.

 

4. You are generous

Your highs, lows and general experience of life all make you a generous person. You are sensitive towards people and idealistic towards society, so you start with yourself hoping others would follow suit. You donate and support, to strangers and friends alike, hoping that when the time comes, you can again see the same kindness returned. I can promise you that you will, but usually not in the ways you expect.

 

3. You are experienced

You have been through the mill. You have seen the best and worst of three worlds: depression, mania (or hypo-mania at least) and the world that every other normal person knows. There are poor old men sixty-something years of age that are struck with poverty, yet they have never known a sadness as you did. And of course, there are filthy rich athletic womanisers who did not come as close as you were to happiness, not even when they’re high on weed (and you don’t even need it). You have seen so much in life that is enough for several lifetimes, and it shows as others often tell you that you are wise beyond your years.

 

2. You are wise

All the previous reasons all pour into your personality, affecting your thoughts, depth and your mind. You are a deep person who seeks, questions and pursues the deeper meanings of life, love and morality. It often gets hard when you see things in a way that others fail to see, because they never had the time, patience or wisdom to ponder such things. But you do. You know what is best for you, you always will (except when you’re manic, obviously).

 

1. You are special

With all the above said and true, what now do you think you are but someone who is different, exceptional, eccentric and special? All the above and more perks that you got from the bipolar ride developed you into a person that others see as simply amazing. Strangely, some people only see these perks in you that they–from lack of awareness–hope that they were bipolar. They are of course wrong. Bipolar disorder is a tough condition for anyone to suffer from, but the ways bipolar disorder makes you better is perhaps God’s way of compensating you for your trouble, and I must say, it is almost a fair trade.

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Thanks for reading, please share this article and leave a comment if you like, and be sure to check out my (ridiculously) popular article 7 annoying things people tell bipolars (and why they hurt) if you haven’t already, or check the category list on the lift if you are in the mood for something else.

I Found a Job (That I’m soon going to lose)

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Dear diary,

The temperature is getting warmer again, and like how I am meant to be, I’m starting to get my energy back again, and with it, my instability. It consistently happens every Spring now for me to deny that my Bipolar disorder has a strong seasonal side to it. And of course, like every time my instability rises, so does the need to blurt out dark secrets to the entire internet to see rises with it. Hello, thebipolarized.com! Hello, friends! It’s been a while. I’m both very happy and seriously disappointed to be writing in this blog once more. How very bipolar of me! :D

I found the perfect job last week. I am a quality assurance coordinator at a HUGE medical company. I am proud to be one of the team. However, a good think does not come so easily, I am soon going to be losing that job because I was hired as a temporary worker at the American company. No matter how much they send word to HQ back in the USA that they are severely understaffed in the QA department, they still would not allow them to increase the headcount, although it is currently one manager with no subordinates handling QA for half of Africa and the Middle East! I have been working for about two weeks, he was astonished how very fast I learned (like a I promised) not believing that I don’t have experience (although my theoretical experience is enough for about 10 lifetimes, just like anyone who holds a BSc (does not stand for Bullshit certificate this is actually bachelor of science (sorry for the bracket within a bracket (I mean brackets)))).

In any case, let’s just hope that my manager has the ability to convince HQ of how he desperately needs me to keep my job, especially that my work so far looks very promising.

Wish me luck!

Where Is My Mind?

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Why I Love Being Bipolar

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If I am dragged to the topic of something I love about myself, I would not go there willingly. I’m never one to brag or boast. I wouldn’t tell you that I’m kind or generous or whatever; I’d leave you to find out for yourself, for actions speak louder than words.

But I would make an exception and do tell you something about me you are never likely to find out for yourself.

I love being bipolar.

This should not shock you, for the key to happiness is to love yourself, and they key to loving yourself is to accept yourself, whatever your self may hold.

It so happens that I have a bipolar self. Upon admitting this, I realized I have two options; whether to accept the fact that I’m bipolar, or forever suffer because of my refusal to accept myself.

It just so happens that I accepted being bipolar so much that I even came to appreciate it. Even admire it.

But how did I come to accept being bipolar in the first place? What is the key to acceptance?

In my honest opinion, I believe that the key to acceptance is humbleness. If you are humble enough to know your place, your abilities, advantages and disadvantages, and make sure your ego and pride fit who you really are to make space for humbleness, you will come to accept your limitations, especially the ones you cannot change.

I accept being bipolar.

I accept it the same way as I came to accept such things as darkness, evil or disease. Without darkness, we would not know light. Without evil we would not know good. Without any bad thing, we would not know the good thing it opposes.

You may be wondering if there is something that opposes bipolar disorder that I recognized. That was not my point. The point is to know the advantage of anything, even if it were a bad thing.

There are advantages to being bipolar.

In depression, you get to experience sadness, hopelessness and misery first hand. Without depression, I would have never appreciated how valuable it is to live without it.

Depression taught me the value of its absence.

In mania, you get to experience wild ambitions, pride, confidence, euphoria and creativity. But you lose your mental clarity, and with it, your logic. I would not be wrong if I say that with losing your logic, you lose your mind. If the package of mania came with mental clarity, perhaps every person on Earth would want a taste of it. But it does not. Your mind–your sanity–is your most valuable asset as a human being. If you lose your sanity, and get compensated with any number of good feelings ot characteristics, you would still not be able to compensate such a loss. Truly, if we can put sanity on one side of a scale, and every single attribute that can be had on the other, the sanity side would tip.

Mania taught me the value of its absence.

If mood were a world, then bipolar disorder is your ticket to see that world. You know more than anyone about the limb-tearing coldness of depression. You know more than anyone about the burning heat of mania. And you know, also more than anyone, where in the world of mood you would like to be. And when you get to that place, you cling to it with nails and teeth. You can be thankful for that place, be thankful for the bipolar ticket that let you know it, accept it, and even love being bipolar.

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Only with knowing sadness can you come to know happiness.

I thought this moment would never come. I thought this feeling is long forgotten. I thought I can think CLEAR, it’s all in the past and I will never get depressed again.

I was WRONG.

Here I am, one month from my wedding, and feeling like a useless liability to those around me. Where did my optimism go? My happiness? My confidence? My enjoyment? My life?

And these thoughts! They are so negative all the time now. Like here I am writing this post, and it goes like “You’re doing this for attention, aren’t you?”

Well I’m not, I’m just leaving this as a message for the people who care. A person who cares is better than thousands who don’t, A good friend is better than any number of acquaintances.

“You know you shouldn’t be blogging, your doctor would be very upset.”

Well what does he know? Didn’t he warn me from bipolar groups? Now those groups made me my best real life friends who know how to pick me when I’m down. I’m pretty sure he’s wrong about this blog as well.

Anyway, just thought I’d get this message out there in case someone was wondering if I’m ever down. Well, I am the author of “Why I love being bipolar”. Now I’m thinking about what a joke that article was. But no I’ve got to bear with this.

Only with great sadness can you appreciate great happiness.

Yeah.. I made that up…

Anyway… Thanks for caring.

I love you all.

Aimer Shama

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