Out of all the things that can make your life hard, the things that people say can be the hardest. The funny thing is that they come from those closest to you. It makes you lose faith in humanity that it comes from them. Like, if those close to you hurt you like that, who needs people? And you want to say people, please, for the love of God and peace and love and cute little pink ass bunnies, STOP. You have no idea how bad it is. Some people say things that are so hurtful that it would literally be more merciful to see shit coming out of their mouths instead of the things they say. Yet, no matter how hard we try, we are bound to hear the following when we least expect it and from the people closest to us:
1) “You don’t need the drugs”
The situation: You’ve been going fine without meds for a while till things get a little out of hand. You decide to pay a visit to your doctor, and as you expected, he gives you a much higher than you would appreciate dose of your friendly neighborhood super-mix. You don’t have a problem with that, after all, you did manage to find the drugs with the least side effect, even if it’s just liver failure, weight gain, parkinsonian tremors, zombie mode and a healthy dose of memory loss.
But along with that, comes sweet, sweet sleep. Not the kind that you enjoy yourself while getting. The kind you are forced to be getting. You sleep 8 hours a day at least and you require a few hours after you wake up to watch the rerun of spongebob for the 5th time till the drugs wear off. With all that sleep time, and the time you spend at work, you barely have any time or energy for your friends. They ask about you, and you explain the horrible side effects of the drugs that you have to take again, so they go like “Why are you taking these drugs? Have you tried not taking them? I’m pretty sure that your drugs are the main cause of your suffering and you should go all natural like how your body gets rid of a cold on its own.”
Why it hurts: Then you feel that you want to scream like, SERIOUSLY? You think I haven’t thought about that? Of course I’m the last person on Earth who wants to take that shit, but do you think I have a choice? If they don’t work, I wouldn’t take them, but I take them coz they are the only thing that works. And seriously, why don’t you try that line on a chemotherapy patient? You should say: Oh no you look horrible and you feel terrible, why don’t you let your body sort its cancer on its own? I mean if any condition has a magical solution that comes from your body, why is there an entire discipline for making, prescribing and dispensing drugs? You have an immune system that has trouble getting rid of a cold for you, not a disease fighting superhero squad.
2) “Can’t you just control your moods”
The situation: You’re happy, you’re going to parties, going out with your friends a lot. You joke around and your jokes are really funny. You are confident and you are dating more people than ever and you wonder for how long you can keep your mood so good and your spirits so high without eventually crashing. The next thing you know, you crash. Just overnight, sleeping like any other day, you just wake up on the wrong side of the bed. Now that’s a funny expression right there, if there’s a side of the bed that would turn you from euphoric to depressed, that’s not the wrong side of the bed. That’s the dark side. The hellish side. The trespassers-shall-be-prosecuted side of the freaking bed. And then, your friends notice your 180 degree turn in your personality, and they feel like they’re dealing with a Jekyll and Hyde situation. They give you advice. The kind of advice that is not only useless, but kind of hurts like “Can’t you just control your moods a little? You know, if you have a little control and try not to feel so depressed, there will be nothing wrong with you!”